Who would have thought that finding three bottles of wine would send me down such a rabbit hole? That is exactly what has happened – I’m in deep.
I have this unrelenting NEED to find out why we save things instead of use them. And I believe the answer to this is the first step to truly embrace a vacation state of mind.
I have spent hours researching and have read countless articles. I haven’t even scratched the surface – my brain feels like a blob of tangled spaghetti. Here is what I have unraveled so far.
Scarcity is the belief that there is a limit of something – once you use all of what you have, there is no more. And there is a fear that you can’t get more.
Fear is a key element of scarcity.
From this post…
- “I was afraid of losing it.”
- “…the diamond necklace…in the safe…because I was worried I would lose it.”
- “I was making her save the dress out of fear something might happen to it…”
- “What if we break them?”
Afraid. Worried. Fear. What If.
All of these negative thoughts were anchoring my focus on what we don’t have (or won’t have).
Abundance is the belief that there is an endless supply of something – once you use all of what you have, you will get more. There is a sense of peace knowing there is enough.
Enough is a key element of abundance.
From the same post…
- “Every day is special.”
- “We turned the ordinary into extraordinary.”
- “We’re alive, we’re healthy, we’re together and so much more.”
- “These are enough on their own.”
Special. Extraordinary. So Much More. Enough.
The above quotes are all my words. Not only did I say those things, but I was talking about the same topic. The difference in my word choice was my mindset.
It’s taken hours of research for me to realize that the simple act of using things had taken me from a mindset of scarcity to one of abundance.
But how did I make this switch? How did I go from the person who had been saving things for 15 years to someone who suddenly decided to use it all in one day?
Although, I can’t pinpoint a moment as I was thinking about the wine, candles or jewelry where I felt gratitude, I did have a feeling that I was being wasteful and unappreciative.
Was I honoring the thoughtfulness of the gift by storing it in a cabinet? Nope. The giver gave these gifts to bring us joy, not fear or worry.
This experience has shown me that I want more abundance in my life and the path to finding abundance is through gratitude.
Not Your Ordinary Gratitude Challenge
Tomorrow is November 1, so it’s very fitting (maybe even predictable) that I would be launching a Gratitude Challenge. However, this is not your ordinary gratitude challenge. It’s easy to make a list of everything you’re grateful for: your spouse, your children, your family, your health, your house…
If expressing gratitude was really this easy, everyone would be doing it and feeling its impact. But making a list of the good things in your life is not gratitude – this is being thankful. Thankful is something you say, grateful is something you feel.
Gratitude is more than being thankful, it’s about finding the good – it’s about digging deeper. To live a life of abundance, you have to embrace not only the good, but the bad.
For this challenge, you will write down the best thing that happened during the day (the good). You will also write down the worst part of your day (the bad). The catch is, you have to find the good in the worst part of your day. To really feel gratitude, you have to turn your thought process upside down.
Here’s an example from last week.
Good: I spent the day with the girls. We got haircuts and found a new dress for Sydney to wear to a wedding this weekend.
Bad: My email broke and I had to call my provider to get it fixed.
Flip It: The agent who helped me with my email was very knowledgeable and fixed my email quickly. She was also curious about The Vacation Nerd, so I explained my mission. She asked questions and gave me great feedback and suggestions. What started out as a chore turned into a rare chance to get insight into what a complete stranger thought about my work.
Everyday I’ll post a reminder and share what I wrote for the day. I’d love to see what you wrote, but I understand if you’d like to keep it private. I really hope you’ll join me so we can experience this together.
Are you filled with fear and worry?
Has “what if” become a part of how you make decisions?
Are you ready to create a life filled with joy and abundance?
Will you join me on this challenge for the next 30 days?
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